Why does the feeling of necessity overtake the sensation of pleasure?

ANSWER by Mr P:  "When one carries a sense of the greater picture of reality – the combined viewing of what-is and what-can-be – it can be difficult to remain focused within the what-is. Man, humans, are pulled out of alignment of what-is into one of two directions: either towards the experience of past or towards the promise of future. Either can hold and trigger feelings of pleasure, or pain. It is not the feeling but the DIRECTION of the feeling which is to be noticed.

Pleasure itself can only be of the here and now. We feel pleasure, right here, right now, for something which occurred or something which is anticipated. It matters not which, for the feeling of pleasure is oh so helpful and harmonious in itself, but it is also important to notice the direction one is experiencing it from.

Holding and maintaining pleasure – or any other helpful and desirable feeling-emotion – is aided by a two-pronged approach: the feeling of pleasure in this moment, along with the compounded effect of pleasure towards the future – anticipatory pleasure. This GUARANTEES the pursuance of the feeling. Awareness of what one is feeling now and awareness of how we anticipate separately and collectively...this is what gives an outlook conducive to elevated happiness and contentment.

The reaction of many to a feeling of deep pleasure is “yes, but...” “Yes, I feel pleasure for this, but that is happening over there…and so I cannot allow the feeling of pleasure (or any substituted feeling) to infiltrate and BELONG within me.” Ownership – in this instance - dependent on uncontrollable outcome.

The feelings of necessity – for all to be ok in the world before ‘I’ can be ok in the world here and now – is rooted in the fear of failure…of not being able to look after oneself. The fear: of oneself being a failure…as opposed to the experience increasing one’s sense of fulfilment and belonging. For there is no such thing as failure – only failure to exert due respect for oneself.

Showing respect for oneself is very different to creating means of necessity. Man is prone to proving his or her necessity as a form of self-worth, in contrast to proving to him or herself due respect and compassion. Acknowledging THIS moment and allowing pleasurable anticipation for the next IS respect; whether that be in silence, in solitude, in company or as leader. The respect is earned by oneself, for oneself.

Holding the pleasure in the face of competition from the soul and ego provides opulence of spirit and the default of respect. As such ‘failure’ cannot exist. Compassion however, for oneself AND others will shine."